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# A Gay Man Passed A Warning Note To A Woman On Her First Date. She Listened.
August 19 2021
Written by Bil Browning.
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LGBTQ NATION - A woman’s tweet about her coffee date has gone viral after she posted a photo of the warning note a gay man passed her after her date stepped away.
“Too many red flags,” the note read. “Run. Be safe girl.”
“I had coffee with a guy yesterday. When he went to the bathroom, the gay guy sitting behind me passed me this note,” she captioned the tweet with a photo of the warning scribbled on the back of a CVS receipt.
Twitter quickly reacted to the woman’s post, asking what the red flags were that the man could overhear.
In follow-up responses, she said the man disagreed with her over DaBaby’s recent homophobic remarks and he had praised a sexist YouTube content creator.
“I can’t help but wonder how bright red those flags were for a complete stranger \[to\] notice AND write a warning note. Big yikes,” one person sent.
“As bright as my red nails,” she responded. “I recognized the red flags, but I wasn’t in danger, so I stayed, because of course I had to debate him. I’m sure my guardian angel was exhausted and was like ‘BITCH, LEAVE!’.”
“There were a few other GLARING red flags that I won’t mention, but don’t worry, I would have recognized them with or without the note. But the note was greatly appreciated and added some laughs to my night,” she added.
“There won’t be a second date.”
“He gave up a CVS receipt to save you. Not only did he risk his personal business exposed, he gave up thousands in coupons. Heed his words,” another user responded.
“Men who date men know men,” another said. “You might wanna listen girl.”
Naturally, a large contingent of straight men quickly rushed into the woman’s mentions to defend the creep and make it her fault or the gay guy’s.
“if all the straight men in the comments weren’t the same type of dude this gay man was warning her about they’d mind their own business,” one user shrewdly pointed out. “if you know it’s not about you then move on. but you know.. a hit dog hollers.”
*(Bil Browning is the Editor-in-Chief of LGBTQ Nation. His personal papers and LGBT activism memorabilia are included in the Smithsonian’s National Museum of American History archives.)*
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