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#  Our Fascination with Butts & What Makes a Good Apology

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The pitch of your voice sends a message. Often when you are nervous or stressed, the pitch goes up and people can tell. This episode begins with some advice on how to tame your voice in stressful situations, so you sound great and are not betrayed by your own voice. <https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communications-matter/202101/why-you-need-pitch-your-voice-lower>

Even though we all have one, there does seem to be a cultural mystery and fascination with the human butt. And by the way, only humans have actual butts. So what is it about butts and why do so many people hate the one they have? What makes an attractive butt? Here to shed some light on all this is Heather Radke author of a book that Amazon awarded one of the best books of 2022 – called [Butts: A Backstory (https://amzn.to/3IDCndo) ](https://amzn.to/3IDCndo%20)

There will always be times when we need to apologize. And how you deliver that apology can help make things better – or worse. So what is the anatomy of the perfect apology? And what makes a terrible one? To find out, listen to my guest Marjorie Ingall, co-author of the book [Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies (https://amzn.to/3vTllk9).](https://amzn.to/3vTllk9)

When you leave a tip at a restaurant, you are sending a message. How much should you leave? What if the service was bad? Listen as I explain some things to consider when deciding how much to leave and why. Source: Steve Dublanica author of [Keep The Change (https://amzn.to/3GSS9Qw)](https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/9a190366-c5b4-11e9-9f29-5fe1099cfbf1/podcasts/c24d0a5a-b25b-11ea-bef6-ef68671ea875/episodes/2cce3f80-7b17-11ed-92d4-17ff1dbc6372/%20https://amzn.to/3GSS9Qw)

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Written by Mike Carruthers on February 07 2023.

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The pitch of your voice sends a message. Often when you are nervous or stressed, the pitch goes up and people can tell. This episode begins with some advice on how to tame your voice in stressful situations, so you sound great and are not betrayed by your own voice. <https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communications-matter/202101/why-you-need-pitch-your-voice-lower>

Even though we all have one, there does seem to be a cultural mystery and fascination with the human butt. And by the way, only humans have actual butts. So what is it about butts and why do so many people hate the one they have? What makes an attractive butt? Here to shed some light on all this is Heather Radke author of a book that Amazon awarded one of the best books of 2022 – called [Butts: A Backstory (https://amzn.to/3IDCndo) ](https://amzn.to/3IDCndo%20)

There will always be times when we need to apologize. And how you deliver that apology can help make things better – or worse. So what is the anatomy of the perfect apology? And what makes a terrible one? To find out, listen to my guest Marjorie Ingall, co-author of the book [Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies (https://amzn.to/3vTllk9).](https://amzn.to/3vTllk9)

When you leave a tip at a restaurant, you are sending a message. How much should you leave? What if the service was bad? Listen as I explain some things to consider when deciding how much to leave and why. Source: Steve Dublanica author of [Keep The Change (https://amzn.to/3GSS9Qw)](https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/9a190366-c5b4-11e9-9f29-5fe1099cfbf1/podcasts/c24d0a5a-b25b-11ea-bef6-ef68671ea875/episodes/2cce3f80-7b17-11ed-92d4-17ff1dbc6372/%20https://amzn.to/3GSS9Qw)

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